"Are you pregnant?" Rant

First of all, I'm going on a rant right now. Second of all, I am not pregnant. Third of all, I get asked if I'm pregnant almost every day by friends, ward members and family members. Which is why I'm writing this. It probably won't lessen the amount of times I get asked if I'm pregnant, but maybe it will a little or maybe it'll open up someone's eyes as to how I'm feeling or as to how women feel about this subject. Some of my readers may feel the same. Tell me your thoughts in the comments below.

Ok. It's frustrating. I don't think I look pregnant and I don't feel like people look at me and think I'm pregnant, so they ask. They are more looking at TJ and thinking, "Wow, he's 2, you should be pregnant." It's not their place. It's not their business.

This decision isn't about how old TJ is or how far apart our children should be spaced. This decision is about readiness of every family member, and includes the couple and the Lord. That's it.

Many couples have a hard time getting pregnant. Many couples try for years. Many couples have to get fertility treatments to try in-vitro. Many couples have no issue getting pregnant, but many lose their babies through miscarriages. Many couples are considering adoption or foster care. Some couples have kids 15 months apart and some have them 10 years apart. Everyone is different. It's never good to judge, but even worse to judge about expanding families.

To friends and ward members: I will tell you when I'm ready to tell you. I'm not going to keep this big secret and make it weird for you when I grow a belly and you think, "She never told me she was pregnant!?!?!" Obviously, if you haven't heard that I'm pregnant from me, I'm probably not pregnant or if I am, I don't want to tell anyone yet in case I have a miscarriage.

To family: Usually people tell their families in a special, creative or funny way. They don't just say it over a text or in casual conversation. "Are you pregnant?" "Yeah....."
If you are a family member, don't ask! I'll probably lie to you if I am and I don't like lying to people's faces. I may have something planned or in the works to tell you when I'm ready to tell you.

Just be patient. Don't blurt out everything that's on your mind, even when it's pregnancy related. I'll get pregnant and tell you. It's big news when it happens, when it happens.

Any time now...

I'm 38 weeks along tomorrow. I'm not dilated as of last Thursday and I'm getting more and more uncomfortable. Our little guy could come any day or hour or minute at this point. The sooner, the better for me, but he'll come when he wants to come and when the Lord wants him to come. My little sister Kristin spent all of last week with me while Todd was in school. It was so nice to have that time together! He started orientation at the U last Monday and classes yesterday. He's got a good schedule though so I don't think I'll be alone very much. I might have to leave him alone to do homework, but at least he'll be home. My ribs are what hurts the most at this point. It's harder and harder to stand up and sit down and get back up. In and out of our car is hard too. Sleeping is getting to be a "wake up every time I need to switch positions and when I need to pee" time. It's not fun, but its preparation for what will come.

The nursery is done though and the diaper bag is packed. The hospital bag is close. We have all the hardware we need, at least that we know we need. :)

Here are some pictures of my belly at 37 weeks.

Funny story...and Updates

So, funny story. Tuesday night, Todd and I were getting ready for bed. I was brushing my teeth and Todd was changing into his PJs. I am taking a Pest Control class and we have to collect bugs for a bug collection. Anyway...while I was brushing my teeth I saw a spider on our bedroom door frame. At first I was super scared but then realized that I hadn't gotten a spider for my collection yet. I needed to go grab a vile and collect that spider. I screamed "SPIDER, SPIDER" and booked it to the kitchen where my viles are kept. Todd thought I had said, "FIRE FIRE" because that's what it sounds like when you have a toothbrush and and bunch of paste in your mouth. He was looking for smoke and flames and was completely convinced since I had just run into the kitchen as fast as I could. He came out of the bedroom really confused, looking for flames and I gave him the vile and pointed and said, "SPIDER!" He was really relived it was just a spider. He got it into the vile for me and I put it in the freezer. Then he explained why he was so confused! :) It was pretty funny.

Some things that have happened in the past week or so:

I cut Todd's hair and did it a little differently and he said that it is his favorite hair cut he's EVER gotten in his life!!! That made me super happy!! I am always worried about ruining my hansome husband's hair and having him have to deal with it for weeks. I have never taken a hair cutting course or anything. The only training I received was from my mom (who cut all our hair growing up) who just learned by experience. She just showed me how clippers work. I figured out the rest from watching so many hair cuts. I was definitely on a high when he told me that.

We have another clog in our plumbing. It just finally backed up a few days ago and we still haven't been able to get any plumber to come and fix it! We've tried a couple different places and they keep having excuses and postponing service until tomorrow and then tomorrow and so on. It is really getting frustrating. There is a ton of brown, nasty crap in our bathtub and we can't use our toliet. We can use the basement for showers and toliet usage but since I have to go so many times during the day, it is taking a toll. We are just super frustrated with these people.

Our little guy is getting bigger and stronger. His kicks are getting more pronounced but still haven't kept me up at night yet. Thank goodness. Todd has been trying to talk to him more so that he will recognize his daddy's voice and not just mine. Todd laid his head right onto my stomach, ear down, and talked to him about how they are going to go fishing and hunting and be best of friends. Junior kicked him twice in the face...cheek area. :) It was cute. It was almost like he understood and was excited for the outtings with his dad.

Feet are hurting more and I'm getting really tired lately and don't want to dress up or get cute for the day. I thought that was 3rd trimester stuff. 23 weeks.

Going to Winco soon! Super excited for a good grocery run with new meals on the menu!

We are really enjoying watching Modern Family. It's our new favorite show along with Psych and Monk.

I took my little sister, Kristin's senior pictures. I have hundreds of photos from the past year and now I am designing her graduation announcements. Lots of pressure but it's been so fun! She's gorgeous and so grown up now.

Todd got me a really sweet card and New Moon for Mother's Day! Last year he got me Twilight so it's becoming a tradition! He's the best husband I could ever ask for! He's better than I ever expected a husband to be like. More than I deserve sometimes.

We're having a Baby!!

Todd and I are so excited to announce that we are having a baby!!! Our due date is September 8th, 2010! We had this ultrasound at 9, almost 10 weeks and everything looked "perfect" (to quote the doctor):

I haven't felt nauseous really at all. I had a little spell for about 2 weeks but food cured it every time. I am currently 12 weeks along and doing great. This picture was taken just before 12 weeks. A little pooch but I had that before.
We are just super excited to have a little baby in our home. Todd and I will graduate with Bachelor's degrees in July from BYU-Idaho and then Todd will start graduate school in the Fall about the time we have our baby so that will be interesting. We don't know what school he will be going to yet though.

I'll try to keep this a little more updated!